Do you find yourself struggling to stay committed to your long-term goals? I think we’ve all been there. You want to achieve this goal and you know, with all your heart, that it’s the right thing for you. Yet you keep finding yourself making choices that don’t align with that end goal. You find yourself falling off the wagon. Months or maybe even years have passed and you still haven’t moved closer to achieving those goals. Here are my top three questions to ask yourself to help you stay dedicated to your goals, and a worksheet to help you out.
The first step you can take is to work on living in alignment. I wrote a post some time ago about getting your actions and desires in alignment so that you can live authentically. Living authentically and in alignment with your desires is a great way to stay on track in general. But maybe you really want to focus on long-term goals. This is similar, but sometimes it can be more difficult to stay dedicated to long-term goals. So with that in mind:
Here’s my biggest tip to help you stay committed.
Remember to choose your long-term goals over your short-term satisfaction. No matter what your craving is, you can reposition your focus to the future. You might be craving some junk food when your long-term goal is to improve your health. Or maybe you want to argue with your partner because they’ve hurt you, when really your goal is to have a happy and healthy relationship with them. Regardless of the kind of craving, taking a step back to refocus on the long-term goals can be so powerful.
Before each choice, consciously stop and think. Think about whether this choice is supporting your long-term goal or just satisfying a short-term urge. The pause is possibly the most important part of this. You don’t just find yourself screaming at your partner or pulling up to the drive-through, there’s a buildup first. When you feel that buildup, pause and reflect on those more important goals. As with most things, this is easier said than done.
Here are three questions to make that self-reflection easier:
Is this choice satisfying an immediate craving? Is that craving aligned with your goal?
For example, if you want to hit the drive-through, is that because you have a short-term craving or because you actually desire to be there? It’s clearly a short-term craving, and it’s one that does not align with any goal of healthiness or weight loss.
Is this choice creating connection to the life of your dreams or is it driving disconnection? Ask yourself this question and really be honest with the answer. If you even have to ask, the action is likely not aligned with your goal, like the drive-through example. But the act of actually acknowledging that disconnection can be quite powerful.
How is this choice impacting your physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being? Once you’ve acknowledged that this choice is leading you away from your long-term goals, you should also evaluate how. In the drive-through example, you’d need to admit to yourself that it’s unhealthy, you’ll feel guilty afterwards, and that you’d eventually feel worse for having it.
These three questions will help you reevaluate. Step back and literally ask yourself, how is this choice impacting me? If the answer is, it’s harming or disconnecting me, it’s difficult to justify that urge. Take a moment to decide which one (the goal or the urge) is the priority. Change doesn’t happen overnight, but it does happen through the moment-to-moment choices. So remember to choose your long-term goals over your short-term satisfaction. Download the worksheet now.