In my book, Words that Work: The Step-by-Step Process to Harness the Power of Your Words to Change Your Mind, Your Choices, and Your Life, the 5 types of Words that Work are:
What you talk about is a mirror of what is inside your mind. Self-talk is the first type of Words that Work and the most important, because self-talk literally creates our reality. In order to immerse yourself in the life you want to create, you must use deliberately aligned speech.Read More
Detoxing and cleanses are a recent health trend, and more and more people are making healthier choices when it comes to their bodies and the way they fuel them. The “Cleanse or Clog” question was introduced to me as a diet/health principle. It’s a very simple, but extremely effective, concept which is probably why I enjoy it so much. In fact, I enjoy it to the point of giving an entire chapter in the middle of my book over to the subject! The idea is to ask yourself, “Will this cleanse or clog me?” about everything you are going to eat. The reason it is so effective is because by just asking yourself a question, the choice you make becomes an intentional, conscious act. (more…)Read More
In writing Chapter 6 of my book, Words that Work, I have been exploring negative self-talk and the darker side of emotions. Inevitably, these lead us down a hole via the dreaded shame spiral. The practice of staying with our emotions when they surface and allowing ourselves to process our full emotional spectrum are ways to keep ourselves cleansed, rather than clogged. Words are the entry point into the world for you to exercise your power in your life. Your words are what can ignite, redirect, stoke, or, put out your own fire.Read More
I hear a lot of people say that there is something they want to do but they can’t because they’re too old, fat, skinny, short, uneducated, etc. At some point, the world gave them this boundary and they just accepted that this is the way that life is. They put a barrier between themselves and something that they wanted.
I have two teenage boys, and my focus lately has been teaching them that the most important thing they can do is to learn to think for themselves. I don’t want them conforming and accommodating society’s expectations of what their lives should be. I want them to understand that by accepting boundaries they are setting limitations on themselves, and like a fence, boundaries box you in. (more…)Read More
It’s time to start taking action! Action seems like the logical next step to achieving any goal, but what I have found is a lot of people confuse what action really is. If I spend an hour researching and taking notes for a blog post, isn’t that taking action? Or does action come into play when I sit down and actually start writing the blog? It might be easier to define these as two separate types of action, being busy and direct action.
You are busy when you are researching and noting, or planning, and then there is the direct action of writing. The difference is, direct action is something that will produce a result. Could I have begun the direct action of writing without the planning? Yes, but will I obtain the desired result without first researching the topic? Probably not. (more…)Read More
The course of our lives flows like a river. Any change in the environment changes the flow of the water, even something as small as a floating leaf makes a difference. Similar to a leaf in a river, every choice we make, even the smallest, will change the course of your life. We are constantly making choices: What should I have for lunch? Which of these companies is a good investment? Where should we go for vacation? Everything we do follows from an earlier choice we have made. (more…)Read More
In a previous post, I explored a few different limiting beliefs, and since then I’ve written about memory and subconscious programming. I have now come to the conclusion, these beliefs aren’t just limiting but also barriers. I feel it is time to write about them again to address how to break down these barrier beliefs.
I chose to start calling them barrier beliefs because the definition of a barrier is much more accurate than the (more…)Read More
Every action we take and emotion we feel began as a thought. 95% of the mind is subconscious. The subconscious is what processes information taken in through our awareness, storing everything as a blueprint that contains all our memories, habits, beliefs, personality, etc. It allows us to keep from having to learn the same thing over and over each day. (Imagine having to learn to tie your shoes each morning!) With that lifetime of experience built up, there is a lot of information swimming around in that 95%! (more…)Read More
There’s a problem with your memory and it’s not something you forgot! Memory is a process that your mind uses to recall and store information. Duh! But, did you know until the mid-1990s, the science community thought memory was a permanent thing? They thought that once the brain processed a memory it was constant and unchangeable. We now know this isn’t the case. Memories are actually highly dynamic.
There is a lot of science here, and if you’d like to learn more, I suggest reading this article from Discover magazine, How Much of Your Memory Is True? What it boils down to is memory is flexible, not stabilized. Every time you recall a memory, the original one will, most likely, be replaced by a slightly modified version. (more…)Read More
We are nearing the end of the year and what a year 2015 has been! Not only is December the time to focus on celebration and family, but it’s the time to reflect on the past year. Reflecting on the year is a great way to connect you to your future. Let’s wrap up the year together and get a head start on 2016! Download the Reflections coaching exercise here.
My big accomplishment for 2015 was submitting my book proposal for the Hay House Publishing contest and winning first place. It’s always been my dream to improve the lives of other people. People often ask me what my secrets to success are because they want that kind of success for themselves. Here’s the great news! I want that (more…)Read More