AUTHOR • SPEAKER • ENTREPRENEUR • CEO
Mary Shores is the author of Conscious Communications: A Step-by-Step Guide to Harnessing the Power of Your Words to Change Your Mind, Your Choices, and Your Life. Recognized as a leader of innovative thought, she has spent over a decade teaching businesses and individuals how to identify their goals, create new ways of thinking, and take action to create meaningful results. Mary travels across the nation giving lectures and teaching courses, and has been featured on local and national radio and television shows, podcasts, and blogs.
You Create Your Life
The thoughts you think. The words you speak. The actions you take. They all shape the reality that you live in today. But did you know that 95% of your thoughts and actions come from your subconscious programming? This is the part of the brain that stores the beliefs you have about people, past experiences, and yourself.
For that reason, most of us live in “subconscious default mode,” meaning that we are making choices based on past experiences, not necessarily on what we really want. You see, the truth of what we want lives in the conscious mind—that’s the other 5% that represents our creativity, wishes, and desires. Yet, we’re usually operating from a space of caution, fear, or doubt thanks to our subconscious.
We say things like…
No, I’m not ready.
There’s no way I can have that.
I can’t do this.
No, that’s not possible.
I won’t ever make that much money.
And we think things like…
I’m not good enough.
I’ll never be happy.
I’ll never fall in love.
I’ll always be fat.
Life will always be hard.
The truth is, in order to have the life, the love, the career, the adventure, the health, and the deep satisfaction we crave, we have to change these old narratives into empowering ones.
The best place to begin? Making decisions from your conscious mind, and steadily changing the default settings of the subconscious mind. This is what Conscious Communications teaches you so that you can finally be free to create your ideal reality. It’s a simple process that consists of eliminating negative language, using words that work, and focusing on what you want.
WHERE IT ALL STARTED
In 2005, I sat amongst thousands of people at Unleash the Power Within, and listened intently as Tony Robbins woke me up to something profound. My success as a business owner and a human being is hinged on one vital concept: having absolute clarity about the outcome. As the CEO of a collection agency—a company I founded at just 24 years old—you’d think I was relatively clear about what I wanted to accomplish. When I returned from Tony’s amazing conference and asked myself the question—what outcome do I really want? —I realized that it wasn’t “make a ton of money” or “be a hotshot.” All I wanted was for the next person I spoke with on the phone to be happier at the end of the call than they were at the start.
Turns out that was the most brilliant idea I’ve ever had. Because I went on to develop a customer service program that not only changed the way we do business, but has also become the framework I’ve used to build out the life-changing concepts in my book: Conscious Communications. Originally called Words that Work, my system directed our customer service team to eliminate negative words from every conversation. Things like “can’t,” “no,” “not,” “however,” or “unfortunately.” This simple change transformed an often vulnerable and uncomfortable conversation about money into a positive one. And our business grew exponentially as a result.
At first, it wasn’t clear to me that I could apply these principles to my own life. After an unexpected and devastating divorce coupled with the residual sadness of losing my first child, the stress of raising an autistic son and teenager, and the management of a very demanding business, I hit rock bottom and realized that the words I was using to describe my life were keeping me planted in a state of depression, despair, and hopelessness. Almost daily, I would say things like “Everything is a struggle” and “I’m such a mess.” And I would even go on to illustrate all of the ways I was struggling and falling apart. Yet, my thoughts, words, and actions were only perpetuating that unwanted reality.
Recognizing from my work that words are incredibly powerful, I decided to be deliberate about everything that came out of my mouth. I would stop myself from complaining mid-sentence and start saying something like, “My life is easy and effortless.” Sometimes it would be too hard for me to actually say the words, so I would write them down instead. My life is easy and effortless. My life is easy. I have a life filled with joy. The more I did this, the more I started making decisions that would make that true; decisions that were in direct alignment with what I wanted, which was to feel happy, purposeful, and strong again. And that I did.
Suddenly, I was manifesting everything I declared that I wanted. I started to get phone calls that started with, “You’ll never believe this…” It was magic, and I saw how I was effectively speaking my life into existence. As my life started to shift, I became fascinated with neuroscience and how our conscious and subconscious choices impact our behavior every day. Through endless research on the science of the brain, hundreds of personal growth retreats, workshops, and books, and a successful experiment in rewiring my own mind, I realized that I had developed a system that could change people’s lives.
Cue the birth of Consciousness Communications: A Step-by-Step Guide to Harnessing the Power of Your Words to Change Your Mind, Your Choices, and Your Life.
Today, as an author, speaker, and developmental consultant, I use my system to empower people to create the lives they’ve always wanted.
“Mary’s Ignite Your Dreams program has helped me focus on my personal growth and meeting business challenges… Taking a short time to work the program keeps me focused across time.”
“Mary Shore’s book is for anyone who wants to manifest changes in her life… I know first-hand that she is action oriented and a master of manifestation. I left her workshop knowing I could create anything I set my mind to. She is a true inspiration!”
“Conscious Communications is the Rosetta Stone of personal development.“